Thursday, March 6, 2008

Please Help Me

I cried on my way home from Walmart today. I was so frustrated with myself for feeling and being so gutless. This is why. I was in the check out line with my sweet little one year old son and looked up to see this months special edition swimsuit issue of the Sports Illustrated that had a title of “Barely there Bikinis.” If you choose to imagine…the model on the cover wore a tiny pair of string bikini bottoms and no top; there was only a necklace thick enough to cover just the pink part of her nipple. I was furious that such a thing was aloud to be open to the public. Is this NOT called pornography? Do we not suffer through plenty of People magazine or whatever else issue of celebrities in skimpy dresses or low cut and midriff baring shirts? I determined to cover it up so I turned the magazine around only to find several girls with no tops on (their backs toward me) and boy-cut bottoms that happened to have their butt cheeks hanging out the bottoms. So I went on to take other magazines to cover this magazine up. I was actually grateful to see Nicole Richie holding her brand new little baby on the cover of People magazine and thought “what a HUGE difference between the purity of these two issues.” Or at least the cover of these two issues. So what do I do? I could (and should have) asked to see a manager and pleaded to have these put behind the same shelf as Playboy or Maxim or whatever other magazines there are that are tasteful (did I just say that of those two magazines?) enough to put a cover over the front that only shows the title of the magazine. I fought myself as I walked out of the store and rationalized that I had frozen foods that need to be put away or that I would be looked at as being ridiculous or that someone would think I was just jealous because I didn’t look as good PHYSICALLY as the woman on the magazine. I got in the car and called my husband and began to cry. Why? Because why in the world should I feel ridiculous or humiliated for sticking up for what is right? Why would I not look into the face of my beautiful little son who is going to be fighting hormone battles in a decade and say “I will do everything I can RIGHT NOW to make that battle a little easier for him?” And what about the battle for my four year old girl? Does this battle not include her? I think anyone with brains would scream a resounding YES!!!

So this is what I am going to do. I am going to make an effort when I go to Walmart, Target, Albertsons, Meijer, Smiths, Kroger, you name it. I’m quickly going to ask the manager to cover them up TODAY because I have a right to go to a store and not worry that my kids and myself are going to feel uncomfortable or degraded by a stupid picture on a magazine. Is it too hard to cover up? I’m guessing that will take all of about two minutes to five tops. Is that not worth the future of my kids? I am asking this of those who are willing. In your next church meeting…whatever religion or belief you have or are, if you are talking about an upcoming service project why not say “hey, let’s go to a few stores and as a group of men or women stand up for Jesus Christ and do what is right?” Aren’t we His disciples? Faith without works is dead, my friends. What if we each took 10 minutes and wrote a letter (and made copies) to send to different editors when we came across something that required a little action? Not bad for a church project to make a difference for our future and that of our posterity. It won’t take long!

This is a quote that I received today when I opened my email. It is from the late leader of my church, Gordon B. Hinckley:

"In my quiet moments, I think of the future with all of its wonderfulpossibilities and with all of its terrible temptations. I wonder what willhappen to you in the next 10 years. Where will you be? What will you bedoing? That will depend on the choices you make, some of which may seemunimportant at the time but which will have tremendousconsequences."

9 comments:

just jen said...

you go jami!

way to have some morals, next time you want to talk to some managers just call me up and i will accompany you or even do the talking. i am very good at persuading people, right??

right.

jani said...

you are awesome Jamilee- I just get disgusted and worried about the future, but don't think enough about what I can do to change it-- for my THREE boys-- thanks for this- I'll do better!!

the mortensen's said...

way to be! You are one tough chick! Hey, when are you due and what are you having?
Do you have my link? It's kymortensens.blogspot.com

mags said...

Where have you been? Love the layout, and count me in on the magazine thing, i saw that one of sports ill today. so annoying. I commend you!

Jeanette said...

Now it's my turn to blog stalk you. We should just make it official...I'm adding you to my blog list. I know I already emailed you about this, but I just wanted renew my commitment to speak up on the issue of inappropriate magazines in the checkout aisle. You are a moral force of nature. Way to go!!!

Mike and Kimmy said...

JAMI!!!!! How are you? I have been wondering how you are. I miss seeing you! I heard you are pregnant again! Congrats! Your kids are getting so big. They are adorable! HOw's Cali? I loved your comments by the way. They're right on. Let me know how you are!

just jen said...

just an update...

when i went to walmart on friday night i didn't see SI on any of the checkstands. when i asked the checker where i could find a copy, she said the only place they had them was in the stationary section.

much better, don't you think?

maybe somebody else complained...

Jamie said...

jami you are awesome! we should all be feeling the exact same way and should be inspired by your post- I am! i have felt this way many times but have ignored it. i have noticed in fredmeyer they have a family friendly checkout....i think they're slowly catching on! you go girl!

Borders Family said...

I am up for the letter writing. Way to be! (isn't that President Hinckley's book title?) Sister Stucki once told us in one of her lessons that she had to stop subscribing to Runner's World because of how skimpy the outfits were on the cover. It is so sad how modesty has been thrown out of the window in society. I dread shopping for summer clothes every year because it is impossible to find very many cute modest clothes here.